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The Key To Being The Light and Becoming a Grace-Giver This Christmas

The Key To Being The Light and Becoming a Grace-Giver This ChristmasThe Key To Being The Light and Becoming a Grace-Giver This Christmas

That one lone candle burning, multiplied by hundreds across the auditorium singing, ‘Silent Night, Holy Night,’ almost as if the flames flickering together whispered that enough light could change the whole world.  

When Believers stop being the light, what else is left to shine into the darkness?

We need the Light, and we need our light to give eternal hope to those who have little in this Christmas season and throughout the year.

A young woman is selling crafts in a booth, putting everything on the line to make this little business of hers survive.With a smile on her face, she greets a customer wearing a bright red ‘Jesus Is The Reason For The Season’ sweatshirt, who mocks her products, her prices, and caustically informs her that she could buy these items cheaper online.Her heart sinks.Her spirit wanes.Does anyone know she’s barely making it?Does anyone care that she’s just holding on by a thread?

A man is waiting on his last table after working two double-shifts.His arms are heavy, his mind distracted, and after hearing the man at the table say grace in one breath, he felt the sweltering weight of his attacks come at him hard in the next breath—all for a simple mistake.

Everyone is looking for a fight, it seems.Everyone is ready to pounce, ready to spoil, ready to curse anyone who steps in our way.Even Believers.Yes, even us.

A Heart of Grace

Life doesn’t always offer us much grace, but we all are starved for grace to keep us going, to put one foot in front of the other, and fight our battles for one more day.

The essence of salvation is the heart of grace.

Wasn’t Grace what was offered to us when we were at our lowest, broken place, wallowing in our sin? Isn’t Grace the gift of the Christ child that was always meant to be given away?

But it’s easy to lose our grace-gift when life steps in and slams the door on us, knocking us off our feet.Sometimes our vision gets blurred and we can’t see the Light or feel Grace holding us up.Our grace-gift gets bruised by life’s disappointments and forgotten by today’s tragedies.

Sometimes it seems we can’t afford any grace.Grace for ourselves, or grace for others.

If there is no grace, there is no light, and if there is no light, who will shine the Light into the darkness?

The Wise not only still follow the Light, seek the Light — they become the Light._Ann Voskamp

Becoming a Grace-Giver

So my heart nods as my head determines to focus this Christmas on giving Grace-gifts —Grace that sees others, that bends in and listens, that gives and loves, and offers blessing wherever I am going, whatever I am doing.

Because our neighbors need Grace to know they matter, our co-workers need Grace to know we care.The girl at the craft show, and the man waiting tables need Grace, too, to let them know their life matters to God and to us, and that they are not alone in this cold, hardened world.

And the greatest news is this: the more Grace we offer the world, the more Grace comes in and fills our hearts —from the bottom up, full to overflowing.

Grace begets more Grace.And Light begets more Light.

So let’s sow Grace wherever we go this Christmas season.Scatter it far and wide— in the most grace-less places, the most hardened heart-soil.We all need more Grace, not less.

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You need Grace to waken your spirit and give you Life.

You need Grace to remember that you are a child of God and that you are enough.

You need Grace to hang onto when you can’t see the road ahead and you can’t find much of anything to steady your faltering steps.

You need Grace to keep getting out of bed while hoping for a better day.

You need Grace to rescue you when your fears have overwhelmed your dreams, and you’re too battered and too weary to risk reaching out one more time.

Fear tells us to never trust anyone, but Grace tells us we can trust the One who gave us EVERYTHING.

Grace-givers know we are all moving forward on or journey, but we don’t have to walk alone.

Grace-givers believe that every word is a gift, and every moment an opportunity to help encourage someone along their way.

Grace-givers know that seeds scattered wide will reap a harvest of life and light.

Somehow I notice the little light at the top of the tree gives out the brightest light.As if the Light reminds me that He can illuminate my dimmest, hopeless, doubting places, too, and give me Grace that shines brighter than the stars.

 


About This Community

Don't we all want a little peace?  My heart for this community is to provide just that - a needed refuge from all the burdens that weigh us down, some encouragement and inspiration to keep us weary travelers moving forward on our journeys, and some practical advice to help each of us navigate the challenges of life and relationships.  Whether in our parenting, our marriages, our faith, or the broken places in our hearts, this place is for anyone who dares to reach beyond the hopelessness that surrounds us and embrace a lifestyle of emotional abundance and peace!  

About Peace for a Lifetime

In my book, Peace for a Lifetime, I share the keys to cultivating a life that’s deeply rooted, overflowing, and abundant, the fruit of which is peace. Through personal and professional experience as a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, I've discovered how to take the broken pieces of life and find indestructible peace with myself, God and with others. Through my story and other’s stories you’ll realize that you can experience the life for which you long. You can experience abundance beyond anything you can imagine. You can experience peace, not just for today, not just for tomorrow. You can experience peace —for a lifetime!

Peace for a Lifetime is available on Amazon.com.

www.lisamurrayonline.com

Book Trailer: https://vimeo.com/155392891

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When We’re Searching For Purpose In Every Season of Our Lives

When We're Searching For Purpose In Every Season of Our LivesWhen We're Searching For Purpose In Every Season of Our Lives

My birthday’s coming. It’s right around the bend.  

My husband threw me this beautiful shindig to honor the occasion.On a perfect late summer evening with the perfect sky, he gathered my favorite people along with some beautiful music and food, to help celebrate.

Fifty is a big birthday.A hallmark, they say.

One of those moments that causes you to pause and re-evaluate everything – the beginning from the ending, to determine where you are in the middle of it all and what it all means anyway.

Birthdays are markers of purpose, marking more than just the passing of time, but marking the quality of time, whispering in our ears if we’ve lived well, walked well, stayed close to the side of the One who has called us and is guiding our journey.

I believe birthdays are like the days leading up to New Year’s Day.They are times to reflect, to be thankful, to heal, to dream, to cast new visions, and to open ourselves to the blowing wind of the Holy Spirit in order to measure our steps and appoint our days.

This birthday has been particularly challenging.The number itself means little.I’m proud of the fifty years I’ve traversed this meager little corner of the universe.

What’s been particularly difficult has been the pressure from external voices around me.I keep hearing people describe being 50 yrs old like the best is over, like life is winding down, like I am now living the denouement of my story.Somehow I’m supposed to be settling in, relaxing, surrendering as I meander quietly into the sunset.

That’s what gets all over my wiry, 5ft 7inches of grit-and-girl self.

This birthday as I see it, is a beautiful gift of humility and gratitude, for the older I get the more I realize my story is more about the people God has miraculously infused to teach me, encourage me, to build me for the work to which I am called today. These are the heroes of grace, who willingly poured themselves into my life to befriend, to accept, to make a difference.

So as I stand here on the eve of this birthday season, I need to declare —I’m not done.

God is still at work in my life.The story of my life is not yet finished.I have no need of a beguiling stallion to ride me off into the sunset.

Moving in the direction of healing will always be the cornerstone of my life.And God’s healing doesn’t come with an expiration date.His purpose doesn’t end with a number.It doesn’t.

If you are struggling with purpose today, here are a few things I’m discovering about God’s purpose for my life through the seasons, even at fifty years old!

When we are seeking Him, His purposes are being accomplished in our lives

I used to live feeling the weight of the world on my shoulder.I was young and naïve, believing that I had to work, to strive, to do in order to accomplish His purposes for my life.

The older I’ve become, I’m learning that God never intended that I carry such a heavy weight.Jesus says to take His yoke, that His yoke is easy and His burden is light.

My job is to walk by His side, to follow in His steps, to move in the direction of Him.He accomplishes the rest.Though I can’t know what that will look like, can’t predict the end result, I can rest knowing that, The one who calls [us] is faithful, and he will do it. (1 Thessalonians 5:24,NIV)

Philippians 2:13(NIV) adds, For it is God who works in [us] to will and to act in order to fulfill his good purpose.

What peace, what relief!His purposes for me are not dependent on me, but on Him, and we can trust Him because He is faithful and He will do it.He is doing it.Rest. Trust Him today.

We can trust His purposes for us are good

I spent a huge part of my twenties believing that God was playing a trick on me, trying to dupe me out of His blessing, making His will like a corn maze that never had an ending, but always left me lost and in a state of perpetual confusion.

Growing to know Him, His character, His heart towards me as His Beloved, I now know His plans and purposes for me are good.He loves His children.His desire to bless us, to give us a hope and a future is sure.

Jeremiah 29:11(NIV) says, For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.

Do you believe God is trustworthy today?Do you believe in your heart that His plans for you are good? If not, what stands in your way?

When we look at God, we will either see our wounds or we will see Him.Our scars or His beauty.Our cynicism or His faithfulness.

What do you see?

His purpose for us is always to pursue holy

We live in a culture that tells us constantly that God has BIG things for us, that our greatest dreams are right at our fingertips.I just don’t know that I buy it anymore.Or want it, for that matter.I can’t find it in Scripture.

At times I’ve fallen victim to believing God’s purpose involves a stadium, a book tour, my name in lights.That is seldom His desire.His desire for each of us is simple.Pursue holy right where we are.Embrace holy.Become holy.

Joshua 24:15(NIV) states that we will each have to make a choice, saying, But if serving the Lord seems undesirable to you, then choose for yourselves this day whom you will serve, whether the gods your ancestors served beyond the Euphrates, or the gods of the Amorites, in whose land you are living. But as for me and my household, we will serve the Lord.

In 2 Timothy 1:9(NIV), Timothy describes God’s calling, He has saved us and called us to a holy life—not because of anything we have done but because of his own purpose and grace. This grace was given us in Christ Jesus before the beginning of time.

Micah 6:8(NIV) echoes this by saying, He has shown you, O mortal, what is good. And what does the Lord require of you? To act justly and to love mercy and to walk humblywith your God.

Wherever you are, whatever you are doing, are you pursuing holy?Do you wake up in the morning with the heartbeat to live and serve the Lord?Do you make it your aim to act justly, to love mercy, and to walk humbly?

It’s really that simple.

What has God given you to do today?  Do it. Do it with all of your heart.

We don’t have to wait until we’re fifty, sixty, or even seventy years old to discover His purpose.We can live it right in this moment.

Turning fifty is a blessing.I know I’m not done. I know God’s not done.

I can’t wait to see what God has in store for each of us.Whatever it is, I know it is good, because He is good. Yes, good.

 


About This Community

Don't we all want a little peace?  My heart for this community is to provide just that - a needed refuge from all the burdens that weigh us down, some encouragement and inspiration to keep us weary travelers moving forward on our journeys, and some practical advice to help each of us navigate the challenges of life and relationships.  Whether in our parenting, our marriages, our faith, or the broken places in our hearts, this place is for anyone who dares to reach beyond the hopelessness that surrounds us and embrace a lifestyle of emotional abundance and peace!  

About Peace for a Lifetime

In my new book, Peace for a Lifetime, I share the keys to cultivating a life that’s deeply rooted, overflowing, and abundant, the fruit of which is peace. Through personal and professional experience as a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, I've discovered how to take the broken pieces of life and find indestructible peace with myself, God and with others. Through my story and other’s stories you’ll realize that you can experience the life for which you long. You can experience abundance beyond anything you can imagine. You can experience peace, not just for today, not just for tomorrow. You can experience peace —for a lifetime!

Peace for a Lifetime is available on Amazon.com.

www.lisamurrayonline.com

Book Trailer: https://vimeo.com/155392891

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Three Secrets To Making and Keeping Your Marriage Strong

Three Secrets To Making and Keeping Your Marriage StrongThree Secrets To Making and Keeping Your Marriage Strong

I’ll be the first to admit I walked down the aisle with my rose-colored glasses solidly adhered to my face. They all said, You’ve waited so long, I’m sure God has brought you someone incredibly ‘special.’

I liked that. He was special. He would surely make me happy.

It wasn’t long after the honeymoon the rose-colored glasses began to fade and the image I had for my marriage shattered under the weight of unrealized and perhaps unrealistic expectations.

I cried. I was certain God had made a mistake because this man was so different from me. Extrovert vs. introvert. Strong vs. insecure. Logical vs. emotional. Surely there was no way to make one flesh out of these two broad, uncommon souls.

Yet that was precisely what God designed our marriage to accomplish. To hammer away, to find a holy rhythm to the push-pull of this awkward, confining yoke. To learn to yield our offenses (and defenses, too) to the One whose hands ultimately guide the plow.

Marriage is the most sacred of pilgrimages. It is the tool God uses to form us into His image, if we will but surrender to its purpose and calling for our lives as individuals.

With divorce as common as a winter cold, it left me perplexed and undone to find the means to secure this covenant. There must be a better way, I prayed.

We struggled. We stubbed our toes. We felt the clumsiness of trying to step together. In the middle of it all, my husband and I have found (and are continually finding) a slow, comfortable cadence in this thing called marriage. We’ve dug deep, read much, and are cultivating something solid, enduring, and strangely beautiful.

Here are three secrets we’ve found to make a marriage strong for the long haul.

Focus more energy on becoming the person God wants you to be than on who you think God wants your spouse to be.

Surrender is a gift of freedom—surrendering control of my spouse’s journey, surrendering all of my expectations for who they should become as well as who I desire them to be for me.

Surrender unleashes God to do the kind of soul-surgery only He can do and frees me to focus on the surgeon’s scalpel at work rooting out the bitter, diseased, cancerous tissue in my own heart so that new tender, living cells can grow into His likeness.

We quietly ask, Who will be my spouse’s savior? Who will be their Holy Spirit?

Will it be us, or will it be the only One who saves, who redeems, who teaches, corrects, and transforms each of us?

Focusing on our journey with Christ brings us into communion with Him as we discover His healing, His passion and purpose for our lives, and puts our mate in God’s trusted and caring hands.

Only then can we look up, enjoy, and fall in love with the person God has given us to walk with through this life. To love. To cheer. To cry with. To believe in. To journey. Together. (exhale.)

Spend as much time noticing the positive as you do ruminating on the negative.

Research shows that it takes five positive thoughts/statements to overcome one negative thought or statement. The pull towards criticism is the easiest yet cruelest addiction we must fight against—if we want our relationship to survive, if we want tender sprigs of mutual kindness, respect, and love to grow.

We can acknowledge a complaint. Healthy couples are adept at speaking, addressing, and working through specific issues throughout their relationship.

Still, the enemy will whisper ever so quietly criticisms about our mate that we allow to steal into our hearts and take over any love, admiration, affection, or positive regard we have for them. Before we know it, we are spiraling in a wave of bleak, resentful ruminations that distort our perceptions of the present and leave us without hope for our future.

Notice the good things. Give thanks for the qualities and characteristics that are strengths. Journal the daily moments, tasks, gifts, that you admire. Pray over them. Pray for blessing and anointing in their lives. Offer a prayer of gratitude.

Psalm 19:14 (NIV) says, May these words of my mouth and this meditation of my heart be pleasing in your sight.

Continue to discover your mate.

So many of us get married and act like our spouse is a book that has been studied, tested, and closed. We lose our sense of wonder. We finish sentences without ever asking a question. We judge. Mercilessly.

We forget the gentle curiosity that drew us into their orbit in the first place.   Our spouses are each a vast and unknown terrain that we can spend a lifetime exploring, discovering new glances, meanings, dreams that are being birthed each and every day.

Three Secrets To Making and Keeping Your Marriage StrongThree Secrets To Making and Keeping Your Marriage Strong

Have you forgotten how to ask questions of your spouse? Open-ended questions? Curious questions?

Sit back and listen. Take it all in. Don’t judge. Don’t criticize. It will bless your marriage.

Our marriages can be rich places for us to find strength, comfort, and encouragement on our healing paths. As we allow more compassion and grace to grow between us, we can face the most desolate seasons of life with confidence.

Ours is a journey of day-to-day beginnings. Learning to whisper our affection on the back porch as the grey sky begins to bend toward charcoal night. Becoming lost in a laughter that is the hidden language between us.

I am learning to relinquish my need to know the end of the story, and am discovering new ways to lean into and enjoy the dance.

 


About This Community

Don't we all want a little peace?  My heart for this community is to provide just that - a needed refuge from all the burdens that weigh us down, some encouragement and inspiration to keep us weary travelers moving forward on our journeys, and some practical advice to help each of us navigate the challenges of life and relationships.  Whether in our parenting, our marriages, our faith, or the broken places in our hearts, this place is for anyone who dares to reach beyond the hopelessness that surrounds us and embrace a lifestyle of emotional abundance and peace!  

About Peace for a Lifetime

In my new book, Peace for a Lifetime, I share the keys to cultivating a life that’s deeply rooted, overflowing, and abundant, the fruit of which is peace. Through personal and professional experience as a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, I've discovered how to take the broken pieces of life and find indestructible peace with myself, God and with others. Through my story and other’s stories you’ll realize that you can experience the life for which you long. You can experience abundance beyond anything you can imagine. You can experience peace, not just for today, not just for tomorrow. You can experience peace —for a lifetime!

Peace for a Lifetime is available on Amazon.com.

Book Trailer: https://vimeo.com/155392891

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